About MySapphic
MySapphic publishes practical writing about LGBTQ+ dating and connection: where people actually meet, what to put in a profile, how to have the conversations that come with it, and how to stay safe doing any of it.
It is run by a small editorial team and published under a team byline rather than individual names.
What this is not
Worth saying near the top, because these are the assumptions people arrive with.
- Not a dating app. There is no profile to make here and no one to swipe on. If that changes, it will be obvious.
- Not a substitute for community. A website cannot be your people. Local groups, bars, sports leagues, and mutual-aid networks do things we cannot.
- Not a brand claiming to speak for every queer person. "LGBTQ+" covers people whose dating lives have almost nothing in common. A lesbian in her forties and a nonbinary nineteen-year-old are not one audience, and writing that pretends otherwise is usually writing that helps neither.
How we handle that last one
We say which group a piece is for, in the piece. When something applies narrowly, it says so. When we have not looked into how something plays out for a particular group, we would rather leave the gap visible than paper over it with language that sounds inclusive and says nothing.
That also means some pages will not be for you. That is the intended behaviour, not a failure of the page.
Where the information comes from
Anything about health, law, or safety is attributed to a named source with the date we checked it. We link out rather than restating, because organisations that specialise in those things do them better than we would.
Anything about how dating actually works — where people meet, what tends to land, what tends to go badly — is editorial judgment informed by what people in these communities report. It is labelled as our view, not as research.
Where we could not find something reliable, we say so instead of filling the gap.
Corrections
If something here is wrong, outdated, or reads like it was written by an outsider guessing, tell us. Corrections get made on the page with the date noted.
The fastest way to be useful: tell us which group a piece got wrong, and how.